“We stopped understanding each other”
Couples Therapy Online & In-Person in Dnipro
Conflict, emotional distance, relationship crises — in a space where both of you are heard
Couples therapy is a space where you can slow down in the middle of tension, frustration, and exhaustion — and try to understand what is actually happening between you.
We are not looking for someone to blame, and we are not here to “win” the conflict. Instead, we explore what makes it so hard to hear each other right now, what sits underneath the arguments, distance, and repeating fights — and whether contact between you can be restored.
I work with couples using Gestalt therapy combined with systemic family therapy — attentive, careful, and without taking the side of “who is right”.
What brings couples to therapy
Most couples don’t come in with one clear problem. More often, it’s a sense that something between you has changed, and it has become hard to make sense of it on your own. What I often hear:
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- “We keep having the same arguments.”
- “It feels like we’ve become strangers.”
- “Every conversation turns into conflict.”
- “We only talk about practical things now — the emotional closeness has slowly faded.”
- “There’s so much tension and resentment between us.”
- “We live like housemates, not like a couple.”
- “One of us keeps pulling away, the other keeps trying to catch up.”
- “We love each other, but it’s so hard to be together.”
- “Our sex life has almost disappeared, and it no longer feels good.”
- “There’s been infidelity, and we don’t know what happens next.”
- “We’ve thought about separation but don’t know how to go through it — especially with children.”
- “We can’t agree on important decisions — money, home, parenting.”
- “One of us wants closeness, the other keeps shutting down.”
- “We’ve been going in circles for half a year now.”
Sometimes couples come not because everything is already broken, but because you still matter to each other — and you no longer know how to move forward. That is often exactly the moment where the work can begin.
How I work with couples
I work with couples using a combination of Gestalt therapy and systemic family therapy. This lets us pay attention both to what is happening between you in the moment, and to the deeper, repeating patterns of your relationship.
I don’t take sides, act as a judge, or decide who is right and who is wrong. My role is to facilitate your dialogue: to help you truly hear each other, notice how you relate in difficult moments, and see what happens between you when conflict or distance appears.
The systemic approach helps us see the bigger picture — the repeating patterns in your relationship, the roles you take on, and the “closed loops” you fall into again and again as a couple.
My work is not about convincing you to stay together or to “save the relationship at any cost”. It is about helping you understand each other more clearly — and, from there, make more conscious choices about how you want to be in your relationship.
How a couples session works
First session
A chance to get to know each other and understand what is happening in your relationship right now. Each partner briefly shares how they see the situation. At the end, I share my initial understanding and suggest a direction for the work ahead.
Ongoing sessions
We work with specific situations that happened between you during the week. I help you slow down inside those moments and notice what is going on in each of you, how you affect one another, and exactly where contact “breaks”.
A note on my role
A session is not a court, and not a place where someone “wins”. My role is to help you hear each other more clearly, not to decide who is right. Regularity (usually weekly) matters especially at the start.
What couples therapy gives
Over time, couples usually notice that:
- it becomes easier to talk about difficult things without quickly escalating into conflict
- there’s more awareness of what’s happening between you in moments of conflict or distance
- the feeling of “going in circles” starts to loosen
- it becomes easier to hear your partner instead of only reacting
- the needs behind hurt, blame, or silence become clearer
- emotional contact gradually returns, or forms in a new way
- there’s more clarity about how you want to be in this relationship going forward
What not to expect
- step-by-step advice in the format “do this and everything will be fine”
- a guarantee that you will definitely stay together
- the quick disappearance of all conflict or difficult emotions
- “re-educating” your partner or changing the other person
- someone making the decisions about your relationship for you
Sometimes the most important change is not “staying together at any cost”, but an honest understanding of what is happening between you — and whether this way of being together suits you.
Fee & format
2200 UAH·55 minutesBook →
Online — Google Meet, payment by card after the time is confirmed
In-person — Dnipro, payment by card or cash after the session
Cancellation less than 24 hours in advance is charged in full, as payment for the reserved time.
Price
2200 UAH
55 minutes · both partners
Frequently asked questions
Do both partners need to attend?
Yes. Couples therapy involves both partners — that is the basic condition of this format.
What if one of us doesn’t want to go to therapy?
That is a common situation. You make the decision to start as a couple. Sometimes a few conversations between you are enough to understand whether you’re ready to move in this direction right now. If one of you is still unsure, that can also be discussed before we start.
Will you take sides?
No. I don’t take sides or decide who is right or wrong. My role is to facilitate the dialogue between you, so that both partners can be heard.
What if we’re on the verge of separation — is there any point in coming?
Yes. These are often exactly the moments where therapy can help you see what is really happening between you, and make a decision from there — whether to rebuild or to end the relationship. Therapy is not about staying together at any cost.
Can therapy help after infidelity?
Yes. We work with the aftermath of infidelity: trust, pain, distance, and how to rebuild — or not rebuild — the relationship. It is one of the most common reasons couples come.
Can we come if we argue constantly?
Yes — conflict is one of the most common reasons couples reach out. We don’t try to remove conflict entirely, but to change its quality: so you can move through it without being left alone with the pain.
Do you guarantee we’ll stay together?
No. Therapy doesn’t guarantee any particular outcome for the relationship. It helps you understand more clearly what is happening between you, and make a more conscious choice about it.
Is what we discuss in sessions confidential?
Yes. Everything that happens in sessions is confidential. The only exceptions are cases required by law and professional ethics (a direct threat to life).
How fast do things change?
Every couple has its own pace. Change in therapy is usually gradual — and often begins with how you start to hear each other differently during the very first sessions.
If you recognise yourselves — that is already enough
You don’t need to know exactly whether “it’s serious yet” or have a clearly formulated request. It’s enough to feel that something between you has shifted, and that it’s hard to hold it on your own.
Message me on Instagram or messenger — we’ll agree on a time and format for the first session.